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Jan 202 min read
How to Support Employees Affected by Wildfires: An HR Challenge
The recent wildfires have devastated communities. The aftereffects of the fires are not just about the immediate physical destruction but...
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Dec 8, 20243 min read
Why Team Grief Is Complicated
When a beloved colleague dies, the impact reverberates across the workplace in profound and, sadly, often unexpected ways. Grief in the...
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Oct 2, 20243 min read
The Death and Dying Dinner Party
I was at Trader Joe's on Saturday, buying food for the meal I would make for the Death and Dying Dinner Party I was hosting that night....
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Sep 4, 20243 min read
#4 How to Support an Employee Returning to Work After a Loss: Tips for Leaders and HR Teams
Last Wednesday, I celebrated a milestone birthday. I've been lucky enough to work for companies where birthdays are a big deal! It's nice...
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Aug 14, 20244 min read
#2 Three Common Mistakes Leaders Make after An Employee Dies
As a leader, making mistakes is part of the job. And like mistakes in general, some mistakes are more costly than others. ...
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Jul 31, 20247 min read
#1 What to Say to a Grieving Person
Not knowing what to say to a grieving friend, colleague, or team member can knock even the most confident person's confidence. There are...
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Jul 16, 20241 min read
The Grieving Box
This box. Big gifts can come in small, thoughtful, hand-folded packages. Eleven days after Art died, one of his students sent this to me....
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Apr 11, 20244 min read
Three Unexpected (But Normal) Thoughts Leaders Have After an Employee Dies
My husband and I were living in Vegas. We had just had our second child. A fender bender months earlier caused him to pass out when he...
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Jan 18, 20241 min read
Gratitude Lists
Gratitude lists. Do you do them? Do you try to do them? Every day, I write ten things I am grateful for in a gratitude notebook....
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Jan 3, 20241 min read
Be The Idiot
I’m gonna start this year off by being the idiot. Why? Because Unemployment is at an all-time low. (Finding a replacement is no longer...
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Dec 31, 20231 min read
This is The Ranch
My cousin owns a 90-acre ranch in Amador County. Our family has been going there for 20 years. (Since Ezra was 1.) Some of Art's ashes...
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Dec 13, 20234 min read
Conversation Starters for The Awkward and All the Rest of Us Too
Holiday Party 2015 Let's NOT Talk About Grief: Conversation Starters for The Awkward As an extrovert ( a person who gets her energy from...
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Dec 12, 20232 min read
Act of Love #67 Put Up Holiday Decorations
#TuesdayTipDay Does anyone else feel like Halloween was only two weeks ago?🙄 Since the holiday season is upon us, Act of Love #69 is all...
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Dec 6, 20236 min read
Death and Knee Surgery
Today marks 365 days since I had knee replacement surgery! And as I sat down to write something about it, I realized I had learned a few...
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Dec 5, 20232 min read
Act of Love #16: Sit with Them When They Open Condolence Cards.
How to be a Human Being Not A Human Doing Today is Tuesday Tip Day! And I'm going to share with you how to be a human BEING instead of a...
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Dec 3, 20232 min read
The birthday fairly finally showed up!
Today is day two of National Grief Awareness Week! (Again, I really like National Grief Awkwardness Week!) And I want to share a personal...
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Dec 2, 20232 min read
National Grief Awareness Week
National Grief Awkwardness Week starts… Wait, I mean, National Grief Awareness Week starts today. Grief is awkward for the griever AND...
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![The 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 for death is..](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/265b78_3023930151e8463e9ef45edffee7c2e7~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_460,h_345,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/265b78_3023930151e8463e9ef45edffee7c2e7~mv2.webp)
Nov 30, 20232 min read
The 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 for death is..
A person at a party asked, "What's the point of planning for the death of an employee?" I get this question quite a bit. Leaders and HR...
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Oct 18, 20232 min read
What Chat GPT Got Wrong About Employee Death and What It Got Right
I've been using ChatGPT quite a bit. ChatGPT is a viral AI language tool for its human-like conversations and more. I used it to turn a...
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Oct 17, 20232 min read
Act of Love #24
Hello, Dear Readers! And welcome to another Tuesday Tip Day! Today, we delve into Act of Love #24 from the book "100 Acts of Love: A...
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Oct 11, 20233 min read
How to Clean Out the Desk of Your Deceased Employee
The death of an employee is hard. Going through their desk will add to the heartbreak but can support your and your team's grieving...
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Oct 5, 20233 min read
Coping with Loss at Work: Three Questions Every Leader Should Ask When an Employee Dies
When someone dies, we all panic. There is a discomfort that makes us want to take immediate action. Leaders, being regular people, are...
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Sep 27, 20232 min read
Three Easy Ways to Practice Employee Gratitude
I found this note from my daughter again the other day. I say, “again” because I found it 3 years ago and saved it. It makes me feel...
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Aug 23, 20233 min read
From Loss to Leadership: The Power of Journaling for Business Titans
Navigating the complexities of leadership is a formidable task on an average day. But what happens when grief and loss come crashing down...
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